5 Rules for Healing Beyond Survival

Hello Reader,

I spoke of the trifecta of my youth in my first book, and I believe this with all my heart: everyone has a story, and that story matters – you matter.

We all carry things from childhood—pain, trauma, or beliefs passed down from family—that can make us feel small. But there are ways forward. These are the 5 Rules for Healing that have carried me (and my clients) beyond survival and into growth:

Rule #1 – Don’t Compare Your Story
Your story is yours. Someone else’s is theirs. Both matter.
👉 Instead of comparison, remind yourself: my story matters too.

Rule #2 – Healing Cannot Happen in Your Head
Your brain loops stories, but your body holds the key.
👉 Instead of getting lost in thoughts, remind yourself: healing happens when I feel it, not when I think it.

Rule #3 – Survival Mode Creates Energy Drains
Coping habits waste your energy and keep you reacting.
👉 Instead of letting triggers run the show, remind yourself: I can choose how I respond.

Rule #4 – You Can Change the Story Anytime
Autopilot isn’t your only option. You can always begin again.
👉 Instead of believing “this is just how I am,” remind yourself: I can always start a new chapter.

Rule #5 – Healing Is a Lifelong Path
Healing is not a finish line—it’s a journey.
👉 Instead of thinking “I should already be done,” remind yourself: I’m still becoming, and that’s beautiful.

Healing doesn’t mean erasing your story—it means choosing how you want to write the next chapter.

If this resonates with you, I invite you to explore it further with me. You don’t have to walk this path alone.

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